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Change Your (Internal) State, Change Your Story

14th March 2024
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In the grand narrative of life, we often find ourselves entangled in our own stories, woven from the threads of our experiences, beliefs, and emotions. These narratives, while familiar and comforting, can sometimes become limiting, trapping us in patterns that hinder our growth and happiness. But what if I told you that you possess the power to rewrite your story simply by changing your internal state?

Our internal state is the culmination of our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes at any given moment. It’s the lens through which we perceive the world and interpret our experiences. And while we may not always have control over external circumstances, we do have agency over our internal state.

Think of your internal state as the canvas upon which you paint your story. When you’re feeling joyful, optimistic, and empowered, your story radiates with positivity and possibility. Conversely, when you’re plagued by doubt, fear, or negativity, your story takes on a darker hue, overshadowed by obstacles and limitations.

So how do we go about changing our internal state to craft a more empowering narrative? Here are a few strategies to consider:

  1. Practice Self-Awareness: The first step in changing your internal state is becoming aware of it. Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Notice recurring patterns or triggers that may be influencing your state of mind.
  2. Challenge Limiting Beliefs: We all carry beliefs about ourselves and the world, many of which were formed in childhood or through past experiences. Identify any beliefs that may be holding you back and challenge them. Ask yourself, “Is this belief serving me? Is it based on fact or perception?”
  3. Choose Empowering Thoughts: You have the power to choose the thoughts you entertain. When negative or limiting thoughts arise, consciously replace them with positive, affirming ones. Practice gratitude and focus on what you can control rather than dwelling on what you can’t.
  4. Cultivate a Growth Mindset: Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth rather than setbacks. Adopt a mindset that sees failure as a stepping stone to success and setbacks as temporary detours on the road to your goals.
  5. Practice Self-Compassion: Change is rarely linear, and it’s okay to stumble along the way. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion, acknowledging that transformation takes time and effort.
  6. Harness the Power of Visualisation: Visualise yourself embodying the qualities and traits you wish to cultivate. See yourself achieving your goals and living your desired reality. This mental imagery can help reinforce your new story and motivate you to take action.

Remember, changing your internal state is not about denying reality or ignoring challenges. It’s about shifting your perspective and reclaiming your power to shape your own narrative. By cultivating a positive internal state, you can rewrite your story from one of limitation to one of possibility and empowerment. So go ahead, change your state, and watch as your story unfolds in ways you never imagined possible.


If you would like to work on your internal state, your thoughts, and daily narrative, my Feed Your Fairy Programme is an amazing monthly programme that will help you address all of this and more. You can find out more here:


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