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Month: March 2024

Change Your (Internal) State, Change Your Story

Written on . Posted in Mindset & Motivation.

In the grand narrative of life, we often find ourselves entangled in our own stories, woven from the threads of our experiences, beliefs, and emotions. These narratives, while familiar and comforting, can sometimes become limiting, trapping us in patterns that hinder our growth and happiness. But what if I told you that you possess the power to rewrite your story simply by changing your internal state?

Our internal state is the culmination of our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes at any given moment. It’s the lens through which we perceive the world and interpret our experiences. And while we may not always have control over external circumstances, we do have agency over our internal state.

Think of your internal state as the canvas upon which you paint your story. When you’re feeling joyful, optimistic, and empowered, your story radiates with positivity and possibility. Conversely, when you’re plagued by doubt, fear, or negativity, your story takes on a darker hue, overshadowed by obstacles and limitations.

So how do we go about changing our internal state to craft a more empowering narrative? Here are a few strategies to consider:

  1. Practice Self-Awareness: The first step in changing your internal state is becoming aware of it. Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Notice recurring patterns or triggers that may be influencing your state of mind.
  2. Challenge Limiting Beliefs: We all carry beliefs about ourselves and the world, many of which were formed in childhood or through past experiences. Identify any beliefs that may be holding you back and challenge them. Ask yourself, “Is this belief serving me? Is it based on fact or perception?”
  3. Choose Empowering Thoughts: You have the power to choose the thoughts you entertain. When negative or limiting thoughts arise, consciously replace them with positive, affirming ones. Practice gratitude and focus on what you can control rather than dwelling on what you can’t.
  4. Cultivate a Growth Mindset: Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth rather than setbacks. Adopt a mindset that sees failure as a stepping stone to success and setbacks as temporary detours on the road to your goals.
  5. Practice Self-Compassion: Change is rarely linear, and it’s okay to stumble along the way. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion, acknowledging that transformation takes time and effort.
  6. Harness the Power of Visualisation: Visualise yourself embodying the qualities and traits you wish to cultivate. See yourself achieving your goals and living your desired reality. This mental imagery can help reinforce your new story and motivate you to take action.

Remember, changing your internal state is not about denying reality or ignoring challenges. It’s about shifting your perspective and reclaiming your power to shape your own narrative. By cultivating a positive internal state, you can rewrite your story from one of limitation to one of possibility and empowerment. So go ahead, change your state, and watch as your story unfolds in ways you never imagined possible.

 

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Embracing the Invisible: Unveiling the Real Numbers of Women Feeling Insignificant in Midlife

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In the grand narrative of life, midlife often stands as a pivotal chapter where the storyline takes unexpected twists and turns. It’s a phase where responsibilities multiply, priorities shift, and societal expectations loom large. Yet, amidst this whirlwind of change, there’s a silent struggle that many women face – the feeling of shrinking into insignificance.

As a life coach for women, I’ve had countless conversations with women in their 40s, 50s and beyond who share a common sentiment: they feel like their voices aren’t heard, their achievements aren’t recognised, and their dreams are fading into the background. It’s a poignant reality that’s often overshadowed by societal stereotypes and unrealistic expectations.

But let’s peel back the layers and delve into the real numbers behind this phenomenon. According to recent studies, a staggering percentage of women experience a sense of invisibility in midlife. Surveys reveal that so many women aged 40 and above feel undervalued and overlooked in various aspects of their lives – be it in their careers, relationships, or personal pursuits.

What’s even more concerning is that this feeling of insignificance isn’t just a passing phase; it can have profound effects on women’s mental and emotional well-being. Research indicates that prolonged feelings of invisibility can lead to heightened levels of stress, anxiety, and even depression. It’s a silent epidemic that deserves our attention and empathy.

So, why do so many women feel like they’re fading into the background as they reach midlife? The reasons are as diverse as the women themselves. For some, it’s the pressure to conform to societal standards of beauty and success, which often favour youth over experience. For others, it’s the lack of representation and recognition in male-dominated industries or patriarchal social structures.

Allow me to share a personal anecdote that sheds light on this phenomenon. Recently, I ventured into a bustling beauty department with my three daughters – aged 16, 23, and 28. I love make up and make up trends, I always have, and keep up with new products. But as we went from counter to counter, I couldn’t shake off the unsettling feeling of being invisible. Despite being surrounded by vibrant displays and eager salespeople, it was as if there was a void-like space where I stood – a space devoid of acknowledgment or recognition. While my daughters were showered with attention and recommendations, I felt like a mere spectator in my own existence. I have no need to be pandered to, but it was as if, I genuinely didn’t exist.

In that particular arena it mattered not as I was happy for the girls to chatter happily and I was content to just be a spectator, but it did make me think about other areas of life in which women might feel like they are not seen, never mind heard.

However, please let me assure you, that there is a very real glimmer of hope – the power of self-awareness and self-empowerment! As women, we have the ability to rewrite our narratives and redefine our worth. It begins with acknowledging our strengths, embracing our uniqueness, and reclaiming our voices.

As a life coach, I’ve witnessed firsthand the transformative impact of self-discovery and self-acceptance. By cultivating a deep sense of self-worth and resilience, women can break free from the shackles of invisibility and step into their full potential. It’s a journey that requires courage, vulnerability, and unwavering self-belief – but the rewards are immeasurable.

So, to all the women who feel like they’re fading into the background in midlife, I say this: you are not alone, and your story matters. You are capable, valuable, and deserving of recognition. Embrace the beauty of your journey, celebrate your achievements – both big and small – and never underestimate the power of your presence.

In closing, let’s not just acknowledge the real numbers of women feeling insignificant in midlife – let’s ignite a movement of empowerment and visibility. Together, we can shatter stereotypes, challenge societal norms, and create a world where every woman feels seen, heard, and valued. It’s time to embrace the invisible and shine brightly for all the world to see.

 

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